PART I
The language experiment was quite interesting and somewhat fun
to do. For the first fifteen minutes I engaged in a conversation with an
individual but under a certain condition, I was not allowed to use any symbolic
language (writing, ASL, no speaking). At first it was going quite smoothly just
listening to the stories this person had to say about how their day went and
some of the struggles they had encountered throughout the day. However, once
five minutes started to kick in, the individual began to feel quite
uncomfortable from me being unresponsive. It was very difficult to not say
anything, especially because the individual questioned me a few times in order
to get my opinion. I was unable to reply like I stated previously and I notice
a facial expression change on the individual from passive to aggravation. The
individual by the way is my very own sister. On a regular day when we are
conversing, I tend to give her a lot of my opinions and speak of the things
that went on in my day. She did not expect me to be silent for quite so long.
By quite I mean not being verbal whatsoever. My hand gestures, facial
expressions and body movements were making her feel uneasy. She started saying
“you are so weird,” “How come you can’t give me a response to this and when you
need one from me, I always give it to you,” and last but not least “are you
even listening to me?” She was the one to be in control of the conversation the
whole time which is somewhat weird because I am usually the one in control of
it. She would be the listener any other day and for this experiment she had to
lead and try to change topics to see if I was paying any attention to her at
all, even though I tried showing her that I was with my body language.
I did not conduct this experiment
with any further individuals or better yet, a group of people. But if I would
have done so then I think it wouldn’t have been as awkward or difficult. Simply
nodding or smiling to the person in response to their initiation of a
conversation shows that someone is listening and absorbing every spec of detail
he or she is speaking of. Plus there are other people in the group in which
some tend to speak for the others and it just makes things a tad bit easier. I
was unable to ask any questions. I somewhat answered the individual’s questions
through my body language. At least that is what I think. As for power, the
power would lean toward the individual (my sister). She was in control of it.
Although there was some sort of power coming from my end by my expression in
showing that I was in agreement of paying attention to her. Yet I believe
verbal communication is more powerful than non-verbal language. Verbally you
get to fully express yourself and non-verbally you only highlight specific
points. I feel that way because I am accustomed to such way of communication.
There are a few cultures where they use a different method of communication and
it works well with their people. However, spoken language is far more common
which makes it have an advantage over any other form of communication. It is
being able to express one’s feelings, thoughts and practice reasoning in a
world full of so many possibilities. Having a voice and using it gives us a
vast amount of power already. If someone who is verbal tries to communicate
with someone from a culture where non-verbal communication, they will find it
very difficult and would also feel some sort of oppression from not being able
to fully express themselves.
PART
II
Body language in other words is a
code of nonverbal cues. We spent most of our time trying to decode people’s
body language and vice versa. The body participates in showing or even hiding
one’s mental state. Learning how to read body language helps us really read
what people are feeling aside from what they have verbally have said they have
felt. Some say they are feeling fine when in reality deep down inside they are
hurting. Reading body language help us discern when people are telling the truth
or when they are lying. It also lets the speaker know that the listener is
attentive to detail of their communication. I am sure many can read body
language it is just that some are quite ignorant of it and choose not to pay
attention to someone’s nonverbal communication. There are a few situations
where reading someone’s body language is not beneficial and as commonly known
it would be at a job interview. People are very nervous when interviewing and
it is because they want to show that they are the best candidate for the job
that stress and anxiety kick in making the person nervous and jittery from time
to time when interviewing. Then it seems like the person is not able to be
attentive or is easily distracted when in reality they are just tense. There is
also the time when someone meets another individual the first time. Again, they
are just nervous and trying to find ways to get comfortable with this
individual that it makes them seem uneasy and a bit quiet. Some body language
is more obvious to discern and it is said that about 70% of our communication
is achieved non-verbally and surprisingly more accurate than verbal communication.
This was a very fun experiment to do in all honesty and I’ve come to learn even
more of how vital both nonverbal and verbal communication are. There are many
ways to get a message across and luckily we have the ability to use all of
those ways.








